Friday, April 24, 2009

Intellectualizing Love

Disclaimer: everything in this post is just my own opinion. I am open to comments (even violent ones) but I’m not claiming that what I wrote down is fact… it’s just my perspective on the subject.

thinking in love “Love is blind”, is a phrase many would disagree with, and many would agree with after thinking about it. I for one have never accepted the proposition that Love is more than a feeling. In fact, when someone says, “he has to think if he is in love with someone”, i automatically think that he has fallen out of love.

That’s why for me, love cannot be defined because it just is. When one stops to think why he or she is in love, or if he or she is in love, then there’s nothing to think about. It’s not love.

It’s felt. You know it, maybe for some it’s immediate, for some it takes time to appear… but you never ever have to think if it’s already there in you. It just is… or isn’t.

I tried searching for “Intellectualizing Love” on the net and found this article: The Four Immeasurable States, from a Buddhist Library… Here are some of what it says about Love:

“Love so often is the name we give to a euphoric state which perpetuates our habitual lack of genuineness, or authenticity.”

“Intellectualizing the love we think we feel loses touch with it.”

“Love is of the heart. It manifests in the level of intuition rather than intellect. You don't need to interpret, or make judgments, or give yourself a part in a soap opera version of your own life. The heart directly experiences love.”

“Intellectualizing love creates such confusion you know longer no whether you love the person or hate him. You can no longer differentiate. Then, even when the relationship begins to break up you are still attached, still clinging to how it used to be in the past, still hoping it can magically come good again.”

Love can’t be thought about or rationalized. It can only be experienced.

Thursday, April 23, 2009


I want somebody to share, Share the rest of my life,
Share my innermost thoughts, Know my intimate details
Someone who’ll stand by my side And give me support
And in return he’ll get my support
he will listen to me When I want to speak
About the world we live in And life in general
Though my views may be wrong, They may even be perverted
he’ll hear me out And wont easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact he’ll often disagree But at the end of it all
he will understand me

I want somebody who cares For me passionately
With every thought and With every breath
Someone who’ll help me see things In a different light
All the things I detest I will almost like
I don’t want to be tied To anyone’s strings
I’m carefully trying to steer clear of Those things
But when I’m asleep I want somebody
Who will put their arms around me
And kiss me tenderly
Though things like this Make me sick
In a case like this Ill get away with it

Sunday, April 19, 2009

What’s Wrong Now!

I have this pet peeve – I don’t like answering voice calls on my cellphone. Yes, I’m a text/SMS addict and I’d reply to almost any text message no matter how unimportant it is… but voice calls is another thing. If it’s really important, I expect that an unanswered voice call to be would be followed by an SMS message telling me to pick up… if it isn’t, then I don’t think the caller has anything important to say.

Anyway, today we were supposed to play badminton with my friends, which we occasionally have done. The difference is that they changed the venue… and didn’t bother to give directions.

Oh, I kept sending messages to those who were going asking for directions but no one texted back… so after waiting 45minutes in playing attire and equipment at a mall, i decided to meet up with a friend who was on a date (of course I checked if I was welcome to join them).

… and for the first time, I was happy for a friend who is inlove WITHOUT feeling a bit envious or sorry for myself. It doesn’t sound that big a deal, but this is the first time I’ve felt one WITHOUT feeling the other…

…and it bothers me! IT REALLY BOTHERS ME!

Have I accepted the fact that I may not find another ‘right’ person? or… I can’t think of any other reason why I don’t feel envious or depressed (along with being happy for my friend.

What’s wrong with me this time?!

Friday, April 17, 2009

Never Judge a Book by its Cover


[click picture to see why]

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Letting It Out

Last July '08, my friends suggested that we form a group consisting of common friends using the same cellphone service (unlimitted text messages).

I was hesitant at first but eventually gave in. On July 6, '08 the Bachelors' Guild was formed. Basically what we do is send 'group' text messages to the members... It's kinda like twitter only via text message. The messages could be about anything under the sun... Sometimes arguments would even break out.

Of course we also meet occasionally for outings and some gatherings. But most of the interaction is via text messages.

I used to think that this was all some childish activity... But like what twitter has proved - its a lot easier to cope with daily stresses if you can tell others how your day has been...

... Even if they don't care at all. Just getting it out makes a whole lot of difference.


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