"...I've been good kid, son, a brother - with my whole life; with one "mistake?" they cannot accept and understand me. I am not a killer, neither nor a gambler, to be hated and treated this way. I am their son, their brother..."
It breaks my heart. I know what he feels. It's not just the words you hear from the people you love that hurt, its the feeling that you're a disappointment to them, that you've hurt them. I don't know which is worse.
Sometimes I'd like to shout to everyone's face that it wasn't a choice, there wasn't a defining moment when anyone of us chose this path. It isn't an illness that can be cured.
To think of love as a "mistake" at all is the true tragedy.
ReplyDeleteMy thoughts are with your friend.
what he meant by "his mistake" was that we aren't considered part of the "norms"... at least by our loved-ones :(
ReplyDeleteThat is a truly painful thing.
ReplyDeleteOf course, bear in mind that your (and your friends) loved ones may come around eventually. Granted, it could be quite a waiting game. It's taken my parents twelve years to get where they've been.
I realize that's little comfort for today. But for that, I'm hoping your friendship will be far more valuable than any encouragement I could offer, anyway.
on the one hand, this makes me very angry. i cannot imagine the pain your friend is going through, but we all know rejection of some kind. to be rejected by your family however, is i think the worst rejection.
ReplyDeleteon the other hand, i totally see where the family is coming from. a religious and conservative culture is not easy to shake off. when it is embedded in your system (the belief that homosexuality is a sin and a lifestyle choice), to say that it is difficult to get over with is an understatement. he has to give them time.
he is blessed he has support like you guys...i hope he feels a little better soon.
hang in there. for him, and for yourself.
thanks for the comments. It's hard seeing a friend going through this and knowing there's so little you can do. How I envy an acquaintance... when he came out to his mom, she was excited, his dad didn't get mad, and his grandma well, she gave him dresses... haha (he isn't into wearing those though)
ReplyDeleterygel...how have you been? i hope you're okay :)
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