I guess I already was different from the start. Whether it was because of something in my DNA or some event in childhood, I really do not know.
In grade school, I was a goody-two-shoes nerdy kid. My parents taught me about good values and I was a very good student. I studied hard, went to church regularly, memorized my memory verses, went straight home after classes... etc., etc. I wasn't exposed to the 'outside' world. Television programs were regulated (my dad really hates soap operas). The only thing I knew about the 3rd sex was that they were those boys who acted like girls and were often the subject of jokes and teasing. I, definitely, wasn't one of them.
I wasn't into sports. I guess it was because we didn't have easy access to sports facilities in my neighborhood. My parents also seemed to prioritize other talents such as playing the piano, public speaking, singing and the like (I don't blame them).
Psychology says that during the grade school years, boys hang out with boys and girls with girls, and they hate the other sex. However I recall that I was more often in the company of my girl classmates - maybe because I didn't like playing basketball, or sipa (local game).
And one more thing - I don't really recall but a former classmate pointed it out to me when I was already in college - It turns out that even if I wasn't really a sociable kid, I always had a 'buddy' - A classmate with whom I always went with, sat beside in the classroom, had recess with... and that 'buddy' was always a guy.
Were these hints of who I was? Maybe, but at that time it seemed perfectly normal.
Wow, I can tell I am really going to enjoy reading your story. It's like a book and I can't wait for the next chapter. This will be an interesting journey to watch - thank you so much for opening up and sharing about it.
ReplyDeleteit seems we have almost the same story... keep writing! :-)
ReplyDeleterygel,
ReplyDeleteare you ready for the reality of the after effects of coming out? man, a true bloodied SDA, a doctor. you must be ready. it will not be easy. i have friends who just suffer and continue to suffer, just because...
how are your parents handling it? stay strong.
after reading your blog for awhile, i feel like your older sister lready, so iguess it is appropriate to say: i'm here, email me when you just feel like venting out.
may
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barbara: i really feel a lot better being able to talk without censoring my self.... and it feels good that someone is listening. thanks
ReplyDeleteMark: don't stop writing either. We can learn from each other
May: thanks for the support. I'm not out in person just here on the net. Like you said... doctor, SDA, living with parents... yes, it's very hard and i'm not yet willing to take that risk. Thank you of being there also